Friday, February 6, 2015

Friends with Benefits Analysis

     At first glance, the movie Friends with Benefits, starring Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake, appears to break the mold of romantic comedies by presenting a realistic depiction of the complicated nature of modern romantic relationships. Jamie, a New York City headhunter played by Kunis, recruits Dylan, an art director played by Timberlake, to work for GQ in NYC. The two become fast friends, and after discussing mutual interest in having sexual relations with no strings attached, they begin a new relationship as friends with benefits. After a while, Jamie decides that she prefers emotional connections to purely physical ones, and begins dating. After a rough breakup with her boyfriend Parker, Dylan offers to help Jamie recover by inviting her to spend a weekend with him and his family in LA. Jamie and Dylan become very close while Dylan’s home, and end up sleeping together- this time, with strings attached. The next morning, however, Jamie overhears Dylan saying that he doesn’t have feelings for her. Jamie is upset, tells Dylan she doesn’t want to be friends anymore, and goes back to New York. Dylan ends up having a conversation with his Alzheimer’s-stricken father, who tells Dylan of a long-lost love. This changes Dylan’s mind about Jamie, and he goes to New York to win her back. The movie ends with the two going on a real date, happy and in love.



Scene 1- Let’s Play Tennis
     Friends with Benefits is, at its core, a romance film. However, it doesn’t start out this way. Early in the movie, Dylan and Jamie watch a romantic movie together. They respond to the big kiss at the end with cynicism, questioning why movies don’t include the drama and emotions that are attached to relationships. Jamie begins to wish aloud that she could just have sex, and Dylan agrees. He suggests that sex should be like a game of tennis, where the partners “shake hands, get on with their shit.” Jamie gets up to go to the kitchen, and Dylan steals a look at her butt, clearly entertaining thoughts of hooking up with Jamie. Dylan then says to Jamie, “Let’s play tennis,” suggesting that the two begin a friends-with-benefits relationship.
     This scene is unique in its depiction of a friendship between genders. Jamie and Dylan are seen as equals, with no apparent gender roles present. The two are participating in the same activity (watching a movie), drinking the same drink (beer), and expressing the same thoughts and opinions. Isolated from the rest of the movie, this scene is remarkably progressive in its presentation of a male/female romantic friendship- with one noticeable exception. Dylan is the one to suggest that the two begin a friends-with-benefits relationship, which suggests that men are supposed to want and initiate sex. Jamie accepts his offer after a little hesitation, implying that she is the gatekeeper of sex. However, much of this scene is based around the equal partnership between Jamie and Dylan.
     This scene is reminiscent of Markle’s content analysis done on Sex and the City, which examines the theory that women can have sex like a man. This theory suggests that “sex like a man” is casual, with no emotions or strings attached. The study found that for most of the series, the women in Sex and the City did engage in sex that was recreational and noncommittal (Markle 2008). Additionally, sex on the show was experienced mostly for pleasure or entertainment (Markle 2008). These findings are consistent with the “Let’s Play Tennis” scene in Friends with Benefits. Markle suggests that the attitudes towards sex on Sex and the City are representative of new cultural attitudes towards the act of sex for women. In the FWB scene, Jamie expresses her own desire for recreational, pleasurable sex, similar to the women on the show, but the actual advance is made by Dylan, which is not consistent with the findings in Markle’s article. On SATC, the women were frequently depicted making sexual advances towards men (Markle 2008). However, as a whole, this scene is very representative of the sexual scripts of sex meant purely for physical pleasure, with no consequences, and having equal effects between men and women, similar to SATC.



Scene 2- Airport Lunch
     Later in the film, both character’s mindsets have significantly shifted. Jamie is hurt by Dylan’s apparent lack of feelings for her, and Dylan is confused by his own emotions. In the film’s pivotal scene, Dylan enjoys lunch with his father at the airport. Dylan’s father has Alzheimer’s, and is not wearing pants in this scene. Dylan takes off his own pants in solidarity with his father. His dad then mistakes a young woman in the airport for “Didi,” which Dylan asks about. His father explains that Didi was the love of his life, a woman he met in the Navy and the one that got away. Dylan realizes that he needs to make things right with Jamie, because she is his Didi.
     This scene is more in line with traditional gender stereotypes when it comes to relationships. It suggests that Jamie is not in control of the situation, and that she should wait for Dylan to sweep her off her feet. Likewise, Dylan has the power in what happens with their relationship, and is obligated to win Jamie over. Based on these observations, Friends with Benefits communicates that men are the decision-makers in relationships, and that women should simply wait for the men to come after them.
     Dylan’s conversation with his father is very reflective of Anne Bader’s findings in her article “Love Will Steer the Stars.” This study identified love myths in music, but many of these scripts are found in Friends with Benefits, particularly in this scene. The codes parallel to Bader’s findings are that “the right mate ‘completes you’- filling your needs are making your dreams come true,” “bickering and fighting a lot mean that a man and a woman really love each other passionately,” “a woman should look like a model or a centerfold,” and “your perfect partner is cosmically pre-destined” (Bader 2007). Dylan feels empty without Jamie, and realizes that she completes him. They split because of a huge fight that occurred, but the core of this fight was the fact that Jamie and Dylan love each other. Jamie is stunningly beautiful. Dylan’s father expresses that Didi was “the one” and that if Dylan finds his soul mate, to never let her go. Dylan realizes that Jamie is the only one for him. It is interesting to note how different the scripts in this scene are compared to the “Let’s Play Tennis” scene. As the movie progresses, it appears to shift its ideals regarding relationships. It is also interesting how many of Bader’s myths are present in this one scene, despite the fact that her study was done in love songs, and this is a movie.



Scene 3- Flash Mob
     The final scene of the movie is textbook romantic comedy. Jamie is supposed to meet her mother at Grand Central Station, but is instead surprised by Dylan, who has prepared an elaborate flash mob dancing to Jamie and his’ songs in an effort to win Jamie back. He asks Jamie to be his best friend again, and Jamie is clearly won over. She tells Dylan to kiss her, and he does. The two then head out to go on their very first date.
     With this final scene, Friends with Benefits sends a concluding message to viewers about how men and women should behave in relationships. Dylan woos Jamie, apologizing, realizing and revealing his true feelings for her in a grand romantic gesture. Jamie, on the other hand, is the passive receiver of the flash mob, and happily accepts Dylan’s apology with a kiss. This suggests that men should initiate romance, and women should be the receivers. Additionally, the scene, along with the entire film, communicates that women are more emotional and men more stoic, as Jamie realizes her feelings for Dylan long before he reciprocates.
     Dylan and Jamie successfully execute a representation of the heterosexual script in this scene. In her article “From Sex to Sexuality: Exposing the Heterosexual Script on Primetime Network Television,” Janna Kim explains that the heterosexual script can be broken down into multiple complementary codes. The script present in this scene has to do with courting strategies employed by men and women. Kim states that “men are protectors and providers in romantic relationships, that they assert their power in the courting ritual by buying gifts or showing off their physical strength, and that they are responsible for making the first move in dating relationships” and that women wait to be pursued by men (Kim 2007). In the flash mob scene, Dylan uses a grand romantic gesture to win Jamie over, making the first move in a show-off kind of way. Jamie is simply the passive receiver of Dylan’s advances, and by the end of the scene, the two are clearly smitten. The outcome of this scene endorses the heterosexual script by providing a happy ending to a relationship with stereotypical gender roles.


      Friends with Benefits makes an effort to portray what relationships are really like in the 21st century- confusing, casual, noncommittal, and more equal between genders than in the past. Through much of the movie, Jamie and Dylan exemplify these characteristics in their relationship. However, the final takeaway is very different, and much more typical of portrayals of relationships in media. After ending their friends-with-benefits situation because Jamie wants more from a relationship, the two only reconnect after Jamie’s boyfriend leaves her. Then she falls for Dylan, while he still can’t come to terms with his true feelings for her. Jamie is upset and leaves, and finally, Dylan realizes he loves her, and wins her back. The outcome of FWB suggests that men want and initiate sex, are not emotional, should make the first move, and hold the power in relationships. It also communicates that women are more emotional, always develop feelings from sex, and should wait for men to make the first move. These conclusions are all consistent with the heterosexual script. Kim outlines the heterosexual script by comparing expected gender roles for men and women in heterosexual relationships, including courting strategies, attitudes towards commitment, the sexual double standard, etc. These include the ideas that women want relationships more than men, men have to win women over, and that women are gatekeepers of sex (Kim 2007). These codes are all present in FWB, which endorses the heterosexual script. This is typical of romantic comedies, but FWB is potentially more consequential for viewers, because it markets itself as offering a progressive, different take on a romantic relationship, but then reverts back to stereotypes in the end. Despite the perceived sexual freedom of Jamie and Dylan and their “equal” partnership, Friends with Benefits endorses many myths and codes within the heterosexual script that should not be promoted. 


References
 Bader, A. (2007). Critical thinking about sex, love, and romance in the mass media (pp. 141-157).          Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates.

Kim, J. L. (2007). From sex to sexuality: exposing the heterosexual script on primetime network              television. Journal of Sex Research, 44(2), 145-157.
Kunis, M., & Timberlake, J. (Actor). (2011). Friends with benefits [Motion picture]. US: Screen              Gems.
Markle, G. (2008). ‘‘Can women have sex like a man?’’: sexual scripts in sex and the                                city. Sexuality and Culture‘, 12, 45-57.